Live the questions

 This is my latest mantra, along with "trust the struggle." It seems I really struggle with just being with what is. I instead go into anxious pursuit of figuring out, solving, and catastrophizing. If I could just get ahead of the worst case scenario. If I could just prevent the imagined bad thing.

These latest struggles with our thirteen year old are teaching me a lot about my coping strategies and my anxiety - ironically the things were are trying to help him with!

It's such a complex, intertwined loop this parent child business.

It's also my own experiences as a teen coming as a think fog in our present.

I am learning to sit better with my own anxiety and nervous system activation. It's meditation every day, 10 min. It is cutting back on alcohol during the week. It is consciously taking care of myself.

One thing emerging: parenting from a calm center. Holding boundaries from a calm, loving center.